If you are considering individual therapy/counseling, you are probably experiencing some type of discomfort, change, or dilemma. Deciding to come to therapy is the first step to feeling better. It’s not uncommon if you if you have a sense of ambivalence about whether to engage in professional counseling. Sometimes the most difficult part is deciding to make that first phone contact with a therapist.
Individual counseling is a safe place free of judgment to explore what has come together to create the issue you seek therapy for, which includes your thoughts and feelings, relationships, hopes, fears and regrets. I will work collaboratively with you, at the pace that is comfortable for you. Together we will explore the events in your life and how external and internal processes have brought you to this place from which you seek help.
Common misperceptions are that asking for help is a sign of weakness, or one must be crazy in order to go to therapy, or that one should be able to deal with their own problems, or friends and family should be enough support. If you have made your way to this website you know that these things are not true.
My style is empathic, supportive, interactive, relational, and direct. Through psychological insight and behavioral interventions, I will help you to gain emotional self-awareness about your communication and relationship patterns. I will respectfully and confidentially assist you through your personal growth process. I use an integrative approach utilizing a variety of theories and techniques depending on your individual needs. In this way I fit the therapeutic process to match the issues you bring to session.
Individual therapy is often the first step to finding your authentic self, free from the worries and constraints that hold you back. Some of the issues Individual Therapy can address are:
- Emotional Issues
- Self Improvement
- Divorce Recovery
- Relational Issues
- Assertiveness Training
- Overcoming Depression
- Conquering Anxiety
- Stress Management
- Life Transitions
- Work Stressors
When emotional problems threaten to become overwhelming or interfere with everyday life, there’s no need to feel defeated. Therapy can be a forum where you can work through your emotional problems that are either due to recent events or are more long standing. You can explore how you deal with problems and discover self-defeating patterns of thought and behavior that get in your way. You can also learn tools on how to cope with your feelings and self soothe when they seem overwhelming, or learn to use your feelings as a messenger into what your deeper needs are.
Do you find that you often engage in dead-end, painful relationships with the wrong people? Are you in a relationship in which you believe that if only your partner changed that everything would be ok? Are you in a relationship in which you often feel bad about yourself, or in which you are constantly obsessing about your partner and your relationship taken over your life?
If you have answered yes to these questions, and want to make positive changes for the better, therapy can help. You can learn how to break free from unhealthy, co-dependent and destructive relationships and learn how to have real intimate healthy relationships and transform your life. You can learn how to have drama free, loving relationships that are fulfilling and fun.
The road to becoming fully satisfied with your life can be bumpy, and take turns that you do not expect. Therapy can help you to examine where you need to make changes to live a more authentic, purposeful and fulfilling life. Enrich your quality of life by learning to face your fears and improve your self-esteem. You can learn more about your strengths and vulnerabilities and use what you discover about yourself to be more successful and joyful.
Many intense and even conflicting feelings can arise before, during and after a divorce. You may experience changes in your identity and self esteem, or have difficulty managing stress, anxiety, grief and anger. Divorce recovery therapy helps you work through the emotions and learn to cope with the changes you are facing. Divorce recovery therapy can help you heal after the hurt of separation and divorce and assist you in moving forward with your life.
Sometimes people have difficulty communicating and interacting with others well. Whether it be with your spouse, friends, coworkers or family members, focusing on relational issues in therapy can help you to become more skilled at interacting with people, strengthening your social skills, and getting your needs met. The goals of therapy may be to help you identify and change interpersonal dynamics, develop more effective ways of working with others, and how to deal with difficult people. This will in turn change the quality of your relationships.
Assertiveness is the ability to express yourself and your rights without violating the rights of others, and that you can ask for what you need without apologizing or feeling defensive. Assertiveness training teaches you how to express feelings honestly, directly and non-critically. Acting assertively will allow you to feel self-confident and will generally help you gain you the respect of your peers and friends.
You do not have to suffer through persistent sadness and hopelessness. Therapy can help you to pinpoint the life problems that contribute to your depression, and help you understand which aspects of those problems can be solved. With therapy, you can set realistic goals that enable you to enhance your mental and emotional well-being. One goal may be to heal un- resolved trauma that is effecting your mood. Another goal may be to help you identify negative or distorted thinking patterns that contribute to feelings of hopelessness and helplessness that accompany depression. Or you may explore other learned thoughts and behaviors that create problems and contribute to depression. For example, therapy can help depressed individuals understand and improve patterns of interacting with other people that contribute to their depression.
It is important to treat depression, and not hope that it just goes away on its own. Having one episode of depression greatly increases the risk of having another episode. There is evidence that therapy may lessen the chance of future episodes or reduce their intensity. Through therapy, people can learn skills to avoid unnecessary suffering from later bouts of depression. Therapy can help you to:
- Feel hopeful about the future
- Help you regain a sense of control and pleasure in life again
- Stop avoiding social situations
- Increase your feelings of self worth
- Change your pessimistic and negative outlook
- Regain your ability to focus and concentrate again, possibly with the help of medications
- Become more engaged with friends and family
Everyone feels anxious and under stress from time to time. Situations such as meeting tight deadlines, important social obligations or family stressors can create anxiety. When one has constant worry, fears about engaging in social situations, or panic attacks, then therapy can remedy the symptoms.
Anxiety disorders may cause severe distress over a period of time and disrupt the lives of individuals suffering from them, and the family members who care about them. With effective therapy, you can learn to understand how your thoughts contribute to the symptoms of anxiety and how to change those thought patterns to reduce the likelihood of occurrence and intensity of your anxiety. You can also address what is out of sync in your life that may be causing you to feel on edge and work on creating more balance. Therapy can help you to:
- Decrease worrisome thoughts
- Manage stressful situations
- Feel more confident in social or performance situations
- Confront and resolve fears
- Stop feeling helpless and powerless in stressful situations
- Stop obsessing about things
- Deal with panic attacks
- Confront your fears
Stress is an inevitable part of our lives. Deadlines, competitions, relationships, deaths/births are just some circumstances in life in which we experience stress. If stress is not managed, it can lead to emotional instability, anger, and health problems such as ulcers, high blood pressure, headaches, or stroke. The goal of stress management therapy is not to eliminate stress but to learn how to manage it. Insufficient stress acts as a depressant and may leave us feeling bored or apathetic; on the other hand, excessive stress may leave us feeling anxious or “tied up in knots.” Therapy can help you find the appropriate level of stress which will motivate but not overwhelm you. Stress management therapy assists you in developing coping skills and techniques to manage stress more effectively, and develop ways to deal with stressful life situations so you keep functioning and not feel paralyzed.
Life is about change and life transition therapy helps you deal with major life changes related to work, relationships, health and other areas. Life transition therapy can help you:
- Deal with transitioning into the “working world”
- Move from being a single person to being in a relationship or marriage
- Make the transition from being a couple to being parents
- Deal with the empty nest after kids leave
- Make peace with an adult child’s choice of lifestyle or partner
- Transition into a new career
- Cope with the death of a loved one
- Manage a newly diagnosed health issue
The work environment can present many obstacles and difficulties. Coworkers, bosses, time management, and balancing work with family life can all present as challenges. Through individual therapy, you can learn negotiation skills, conflict resolutions skills, and time management skills to help make your work life more successful.