If you’re considering individual therapy or counseling, you’re probably experiencing some sort of discomfort or dilemma that you can’t quite effectively tackle as on your own. Deciding to come to therapy is the first step in feeling better.
When problems become overwhelming or continually impact your daily life, there’s no need to feel defeated or alone. It’s okay to ask for help. Individual Therapy is a safe place that’s free of judgement, where you can explore the issues or concerns that you’d like to change or clear out, including your thoughts and feelings, relationships, problematic behaviors, fears, and regrets. In therapy you can work through challenges that are either due to recent events or are more long standing. Also learn how to overcome self-defeating thoughts and change unhelpful behaviors that get in your way. Acquire tools to help you cope with your feelings and self soothe when they seem overwhelming. And learn how to use your feelings as a messenger into what your deeper needs are.
Dr. Zeising will work collaboratively with you, at the pace that is comfortable for you, helping you to create a life of balance, purpose and joy. Her style is empathic, supportive, interactive, relational, and direct. Through fostering psychological insight, she will help you to gain more self-awareness, so that you can make more conscious decisions that allign with your values. She will respectfully and confidentially assist you through your personal growth process.
Her comforting and integrative approach utilizes a variety of theories such as cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT), psychodynamic therapy, solution focused therapy, mindfulness, and body based psychotherapy, depending on your individual needs. When appropriate, she recommends additional books or articles. Also, homework may be assigned to help facilitate treatment, such as practicing tools learned in session or tracking behaviors and symptoms. She fits the therapeutic process to match your personal needs and the issues you bring to session.
Individual Therapy can address such issues as:
- Work stressors
- Trailing spouse syndrome
- Anxiety and worry
- Challenging relationships
- Self-confidence and self-esteem issues
- Life changes and transitions
- Recovering from a breakup or divorce
- Post-partum depression
- Stress Management
- Coping with Loss
- Ambivalence about your relationship
- Coping with emotions
Some of the potential benefits you can gain from Individual Therapy include:
- Managing life‘s challenges and stress more effectively
- Feeling more joy and peace in life
- Learning to love yourself
- Creating a work/life balance
- Gaining happiness from within
- Feeling confident in your decisions
- Enhancing relationships with your family and partner
- Letting go of past hurts and distress
- Gaining a deeper understanding of your needs, values and desires
- Speaking up for yourself in a confident manner
- Creating a connected, erotic, satisfying sexual life
Couples Therapy & Marriage Counseling
Relationships can bring great pleasure to life. However, conflict and communication struggles are often a unpleasant part of relationships and can create disagreements and distance. Without effective problem solving skills, problems can become too big and not allow room for couples to be happy in their relationships. When couples are having challenges in their relationship—issues that they just can’t seem to get past on their own— Couples Therapy can help.
Couples often say that they want close, intimate relationships. However, Intimacy isn’t something that couples just have that’s built into their relationships. It’s something couples consciously create. Part of creating this intimacy is a willingness to be vulnerable, empathetic, show up honestly, and hold yourself accountable. This may seem easier said than done. Dr. Zeising can assist you along the path towards fostering these skills and creating an intimate and fulfilling relationship that lasts the tests of time.
The focus of Couples Therapy is to provide a setting in which both partners can feel safe to honestly explore their feelings and work on reaching a deeper understanding of each other’s’ needs. Couples can learn to skillfully and honestly assert their own needs while, at the same time, also honoring their partner’s needs. You will be able to build intimacy and connection without sacrificing each of your individual identities.
In Couples Therapy, couples can clear up past issues, so that they can concentrate on improving their present situation. Old habits and patterns of negative interaction can be replaced by healthier and more positive behaviors, creating ways to reconnect with each other on multiple levels.
Common issues that that are addressed in Couples’Therapy or Marriage Counseling include:
- Ineffective Communication – Frequentfighting – Infidelity
- Lack of emotional or sexual intimacy
- Trust Issues
- Distance and disconnect
- Lack of mutual respect
- Career conflicts
- Power and control issues
- Trailing Spouse Syndrome
Dr. Zeising can help in these ways:
- Teaching you a new caliber of communication with your partner
- Closing the painful distance that comes when you and your partner don’t connect
- Addressing ways for both partners to “step in” instead of “stepping out” of the relationship
- Giving you both an understanding about your roles in the relationship dynamic
- Holding on to yourself while also being there for your partner
- Showing you how to get more of what you both want in your relationship
- Deepening emotional and sexual intimacy
- Being the best partner you can be
- Establishing a deeper level of understanding between both of you
What is Sex Therapy?
Sex therapy is a specialized type of psychotherapy that helps you address your sexual problems or concerns in a safe and confidential office setting. Sex Therapy can be effective for adults and couples of any age, gender or sexual orientation. Sex Therapists do not have sexual contact with clients. They address sexual issues through talk therapy and enact change through compassion, creating insight, healing and awareness, and often suggest specific behavioral interventions to do at home between sessions.
You can explore thoughts and feelings that you may have never given yourself permission to process before, because fear, stigma or shame have held you back. You will soon see that nothing is off the table when working with Dr. Zeising. Whatever you feel interested in exploring and are ready to address, Dr. Zeising is honored and able to warmly and sensitively assist you on your journey towards sexual fulfillment.
What are some examples of why people come in for sex therapy?
One goal may be to provide a reality check about expectations in an understanding environment. We often get the message that in a “good relationship” or in the “right relationship,” sex should come easily and just flow. Otherwise, something is wrong and maybe you’ve picked the wrong partner. It’s important to know that eroticism and intimacy in marriage are adult developmental tasks. This means that they present challenges for all of us at some point or another. But addressing them honestly—exploring your true desires, turn-ons/turn-offs, being open and vulnerable—will offer the opportunity to grow. Dr. Zeising will help you to work through this stage and build a deeper, more intimate and sexually fulfilling and loving relationship.
When our body doesn’t perform in the way we’d like it to, we can get anxious, frustrated and disappointed. Experiences like losing an erection during sex or having difficulties having an orgasm can lead us to believe we are inadequate, that our partners will be disappointed with us, or that we won’t be able to have the pleasure we so desire. Sex Therapy can help you sensitively learn about your body and what it needs to let go and be satisfied and fulfilled. It can also help quiet the mind to help you be more present to what is going on in the moment, so you can experience the pleasure and the love. You can learn to let go of the worry and thoughts in your head with tools to help you relax and be totally in the moment, so your body can do what it naturally wants to do… enjoy sex!
Dr. Zeising also works in conjunction with other medical doctors, if necessary. Sometimes there are medical components to sexual dysfunction, or medications that cause challenges in sexual desire, arousal, performance, and satisfaction issues. She will take a holistic approach to help pinpoint the root of the problem and offer caring solutions.
What is the role of the Sex Therapist?
Certified Sex Therapists are mental health professionals who are trained to provide in-depth psychotherapy and have specialized training in treating clients with sexual issues and concerns. To obtain certification as a Sex Therapist, Dr. Zeising completed rigorous training and supervision through the American Association of Sexuality Educators, Counselors and Therapists (AASECT). She is able to compassionately address both simple sexual concerns and is prepared to provide comprehensive and extensive psychotherapy over an extended period of time in more complex cases. Being a certified sex therapist, Dr. Zeising has had training and experience in a wide range of sexual issues and is able to properly diagnose and understandingly treat sexual concerns.
What kinds of problems can sex therapy help address?
- Sexual dissatisfaction
- Differences in desire
- Difficulty maintaining an erection
- Issues related to pregnancy/postpartum
- Difficulties with orgasm
- Previous sexual trauma
- Difficulty relaxing and enjoying sex
- Sexual addiction or compulsion
- Coping with changes in your body as youage
- Questions about your sexual orientation
- Communication Difficulties
- Illness or disability effecting your sex life
- Answering questions about sex you neverknew who to ask
If you are unable to come into the office, I offer online video conferencing. While not the best fit for everyone, video conferencing is a solution that has benefited many people who wouldn’t have been able to make it into the office otherwise.
Some people travel so frequently for work that meeting in-person with regularity is simply not an option. Others find it challenging to make it into the office due to physical challenges or have a lifestyle where just getting to the office is challenging. In these cases, online video conferencing may be an option.
If any of these descriptions fit you, meeting via the secure, encrypted, HIPPA compliant video conferencing platform VSEE may be a good fit. If you have any further questions about whether meeting via VSEE could be the right fit for you, I welcome you to reach out to me directly through email or my contact form.