Dealing with a partner who has “character flaws”, or a “difficult personality” can be challenging but can also test the strength of your love for each other. In this article, Dr. Zeising shares that as long as you and your partner are able to take ownership for your behaviours, find a compromise and maintain flexibility, then your relationship has all the potential to blossom into something beautiful and everlasting.
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As part of the series in the South China Morning Post “Naked Truth” column, Dr. Zeising discusses the truth about erectile dysfunction. She addresses what causes it, the things you can do to help, and how having ED does not mean you have to stop having a satisfying sex life with your partner.
For the full article in the SCMP, click here.
Dr. Zeising spoke to the South China Morning Post and normalized the challenges couples often experience in their sex lives. She gave advice on how to cultivate sexual energy to help you get in the mood, and to rekindle the flames of desire.
You can view the full article in the South China Morning Post by clicking here.
What is emotional and sexual balance?
In satisfying relationships, your partner is more than just a confidant and friend, they are also your sexual companion. Unfortunately, seriously involved couples, whether married or not, too often become so preoccupied with managing day-to-day tasks involving jobs, parenting, household duties, and life responsibilities that they treat their relationship (including sexuality) with benign neglect. Even though their relationship remains stable, they lose their spark and emotional intimacy. A healthy couple relationship promotes a vital sexual relationship that a great balance of closeness and eroticism.
Take a moment to think about your sexual relationship. On a scale of 1-10, one being complete neglect and 10 being complete immersion, where are you on the scale? Are you thinking that that you’ll tend to it tomorrow…. when in reality you’re putting it off? If so, think of one thing could you do today to give your sexual relationship, and your partner, more attention. Act on it!
The Huffington Post again reached out to me to get my take on some of the most ignored relationship issues. Couples are prone to sweep these 7 problems under the rug, experts say. Here’s a link to see what I shared:
Most Ignored Relationship Problems
I was featured in an article on the Huffington Post about couples who are stuck in sexually frustrating marriages, and who feel sex-starved. Please click the link below to read what I had to share.
HuffPost Article: How to Bring Sex Back Into Your Marriage
Do you ever feel that if only your partner would step in and give you the love you need, that only then, you’d be able to respond in kind?
Well, you may be waiting a long time. Because your significant other is probably waiting for you to do the same thing.
So how do you move past this love gridlock, where you’re both standing in your corners with your arms crossed in defiance? You risk taking the first step.
I know, it’s hard to do. You think- How do I show love and support when I haven’t had MY needs met? Well, again, you can justify your position till the cows come home, but then you will be in that exact same spot. Feeling alone. Entitled and feeling justified in your position, but alone.
So stretch yourself a bit. Think about how you could come out of your shell and towards your partner. Let some walls down. How can you share a part of yourself or your feelings? Can you be vulnerable? What is he or she needing at that moment? Is it so hard to do? What do you think could happen? You may just be surprised.
It just takes some kind words, or a small gesture of love to show you’re holding out your hand to them to bridge the gap. You may be met with a suspicious look….or one of curiosity…..because you have likely been gridlocked and so stuck in this dynamic that your partner isn’t expecting you to do anything else.
However, this can be a first step to soften the tension and help you two start to come together. And it’s from this place, once you start stepping in, that they may join you in this dance and you may start getting back what you want from them.
People will often say that cheating is wrong. However, that doesn’t stop people from doing it. I was interviewed by Health Magazine about my take as to why people cheat. Take a look! :
Why People Cheat
I was recently contacted by a writer for Prevention Magazine. They wanted some help with an article about what constitutes a healthy sex life. Click here to read what I shared:
10 Signs You Have a Healthy Sex Life
I went for a run on the beach today and I enjoyed watching families getting together for some fun in the sun. They were kicking soccer balls, jumping in the water and building sand castles. There was a lightness of spirit- and it seemed as though the only goal was to play and enjoy the day. I have to think that since it’s the 4th of July weekend people expect to get out and have some fun. But what about the rest of the year?
I notice many couples seem to have difficulty integrating play and fun into their relationships. This can be for a variety of reasons. They may feel like there is not enough time in the week for fun activities, or they have to deal with work or family demands, or they believe that fun events cost too much money.
It seems like couples have many excuses to avoid making the time to let loose and have fun. This could be because our society tends to dismiss play for adults. Play is perceived as unproductive, petty or even a guilty pleasure. The belief is that once we are adults then it’s time to get serious. Consequently, relationships can begin to feel stale and lifeless and couples may find themselves wondering what happened to the joy they once had. Where did the spark go? What happened to the energy we once had that created laughter and smiles?
It’s important for couples to recognize the need to have play time just like their kids do! We don’t lose the need for novelty and pleasure as we grow up. Play brings joy. And it’s vital for problem solving, creativity and relationships. Although play may look a bit different for adults, it’s just as valuable. Play is about being in the moment and having fun. For the most part, the focus is on the actual experience, not on accomplishing a goal. Play can mean exercise- like going for a Sunday ride on your bikes, or playing tennis together. It can also mean getting out in nature like the beach, forest or mountains. It can be the times when you play games together, or the times when you let loose and wrestle with each other. It’s allowing yourself to let go and get lost in the moment with your partner. It’s about valuing the joy and fun times as much as you value work and running the household.
If you find yourself thinking that play is a waste of time, know that it offers some serious benefits for both you and your partner. It will help bring that connection back and allow you to feel a deeper sense of joy in your relationship and your life. So carve out some time each week to play with your partner!